Get Informed
Be prepared to talk about certain warning signs or symptoms, and how unhealthy habits could lead to a serious illness or condition. For example, if you’re concerned about a friend who smokes, visit the Canadian Lung Association™ Web site to find facts to bring up in the conversation.
Pick the Right Time
Choosing an appropriate moment is important. Find a place where you both can talk openly. Also, make sure you have your thoughts together and are ready to talk in a calm, nonconfrontational manner.
State Your Concern
Start the conversation by clearly stating your love and concern for the person. You might start with something like, "I love you very much, and I’m concerned about your eating habits and how they are affecting your health."
Express How It Makes You Feel
Your loved one’s unhealthy habits can take a toll on you. The situation could make you stressed, sad or afraid, or it could be affecting your health, such as in the form of secondhand smoke. Let the person know your feelings and how unhealthy habits are affecting your relationship.
Find Someone to Help
Ask another friend or family member to help you talk about it, or talk to your family physician for advice. For addiction-related health concerns, it may be best to speak with a counselor or a support group.
Offer Your Support
Recommend ways to get help, and let your loved one know you’re ready to support her fully once she’s ready to get healthier. Remember that ultimately, it’s her decision. But knowing she has your loving support could motivate your loved one to make the right change.
